What 10 things have you stopped doing in your life?

I stopped buying super-cheap clothing that I didn't enjoy wearing. I deserve to feel fashionable.

I stopped trying to find common ground with Trump supporters. You can not rationalize with willful ignorance and those who have happily been brainwashed.

I stopped struggling to put sheets on my bed in my tiny bedroom. A comforter on bottom, another on top, and I'm good.

What are some possible reasons for an unfaithful spouse to not confess their affair to their partner and instead end it without telling them?

I stopped trying to find reasons to forgive people who don't deserve forgiveness. It was liberating.

Edit/Postscript: I got a couple “mansplain alerts” helpfully explaining to me that I obviously stink, and that sheets must be changed every night. I don’t know how I managed before all these helpful tips! I teach in a middle school. Students this age have zero filters. If I stunk, I would hear about it immediately and loudly with no regards for my feelings. If my bedding was gross or stunk, I wouldn’t sleep on it. As I so often have to tell students, when I want your opinion, I’ll let you know.

I stopped worrying about what people think of me. Nobody thinks they care about that, but many actually do. If people call me a crazy cat lady…and? What should I do, throw myself off a cliff in remorse?

What can I do after 18 cops raided my home, without a warrant, seeking a person who didn't live there and wasn't there, and also went through all of my stuff? The person wasn't on the lease, and they didn't see him enter.

I stopped sorting laundry. It's idiotic. Fabrics are color -safe now. I wash everything in cold water and literally 2 tablespoons of detergent, the recommended amount. And yes, my laundry gets clean. If there is something extremely foul or that needs bleached, I do a separate hot-water load.

I don't shower every day. I don't need to. I don't sweat much, never have. Two or three showers a week is enough for me.

I stopped trying to forget my troubled childhood and instead used it as the basis for books.

Why are perceived or real slights interpreted as rejections and reality by pwBPD?

I stopped hiding my education. I have a lot of it. Because of how I was raised, I used to not be proud of it, worried I would appear elitist. Now? Fuck it. I worked my ass off for each degree, it took years, and I deserve to be proud of those accomplishments.

I stopped looking for my dream guy. It is highly doubtful he will show up. And that's okay. My life is great as is.